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“My stepmom was mean and cruel to my sister and me”
My stepmom was mean and cruel to us and my dad was loyal to her. She would rile him up against us. She would yell “beat them Lale” and he would. He would drink and get very angry.
The verbal abuse was continuous with judgment, criticism of our feelings, and yelling at us for inappropriate reasons. One incident I remember well was when my stepmom would scream in a high-pitched voice when I was eating “hold your fork right” and I had not even been instructed there was a “right” way to hold a fork. To this day I can hear that high-pitched scream in my head, but it does not affect my emotions or confidence as a person now.
My sister and I ran away several times only to have the police side with my dad and stepmom
I am so excited about this NEW book release. I have put a sample piece here of what is in the book.
Have you ever finished talking to someone and felt misunderstood or disrespected? Or felt a little crazy from what they just said to you?
You are not alone. You can learn how to reverse what has happened to you and how what happened affected you.
Boundaries to Freedom
In the book Boundaries to Freedom you learn how to set healthy boundaries, have more confidence and think differently about yourself. You will gain the empowerment and confident feelings you have always wanted. Learn how to filter and detach from the accusations, blame and degrading comments that are verbally directed at you. Change how negative responses from toxic relationships affect you and brings hope of repair. You will create relationships that are welcoming and pleasurable. Recover from sadness, depression, and hopelessness in your life and your relationships.
My Story
Di Giacomo tells her story about how she was verbally and emotionally abused most of her life. She gives examples of what happened to her, and how she learned to be confident and healed from it. She tells the inspiring story about how she got free from the mental and emotional damage that results from continuous abuse.
What you get
In Boundaries to Freedom, you get a helpful list of healthy and non-healthy boundaries to print out. This list will give you a quick reference to use when you are being bombarded by someone verbally or emotionally abusing you. The list will teach you how to know a healthy boundary from an unhealthy one.
Learning to have healthy boundaries is an exciting adventure, an exercise in personal liberation. It means coming to know ourselves and increasing our awareness of what we stand for. It also means self-acceptance and knowing that we are OK just as we are and worthy of the good things in life.
There are several areas where boundaries apply: Here are some of them::
Material boundaries
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Determine whether you give or lend things, such as your money, car, clothes, books, food, or toothbrush.
Physical boundaries
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These pertain to your personal space, privacy, and body. Do you give a handshake or a hug – to whom and when? How do you feel about loud music, nudity, and locked doors?
Mental boundaries
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These apply to your thoughts, values, and opinions. Are you easily suggestible? Do you know what you believe, and can you hold onto your opinions? Can you listen with an open mind to someone else’s opinion without becoming rigid? If you become highly emotional, argumentative, or defensive, you may have weak emotional boundaries.
Emotional boundaries
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Distinguish separating your emotions and responsibility for them from someone else’s. It’s like an imaginary line or force field that separates you and others. Healthy boundaries prevent you from giving advice, blaming or accepting blame. They protect you from feeling guilty for someone else’s negative feelings or problems and taking others’ comments personally. High reactivity suggests weak emotional boundaries.
