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The opening lines of the poem “We wear the mask” by Paul Laurence Dunbar, written in 1896 says,
We wear the mask that grins and lies,
It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes,—
This debt we pay to human guile; With torn and bleeding hearts we smile.
But, no one sees you; Are you aware of who you really are???
Hi there, Did you know…You can burnout from the lack of boundaries. How? you say… If you don’t know who you are or what you want to allow in your space or how you want people to treat you, you won’t set boundaries. Especially if you grew up in a home where there were no set boundaries as an example or model for you to follow. By being proactive with setting boundaries around your work, your relationships, and your environment you will not burnout.
Why it matters…As I was growing up I had no boundaries because I grew up in a dysfunctional family that didn’t know what mental, physical, or emotional boundaries were This began my journey that I knew I had to take. I could not wallow in the shame and the fear that not setting boundaries had produced for the rest of my life. It was affecting my personality and the dreams that I had to fulfill my life’s purpose.
So, I began a journey of healing, newness, and recovery in my life. This journey led me to realize I was raised in a dysfunctional family and I began to read and study everything I could get my hands on to heal my emotions.
What to do…
Boundaries are learned. If you tried to set boundaries as a child and they were not valued, or you have not been able to set boundaries as an adult you haven’t experienced how it feels to set them. Any kind of abuse violates personal boundaries, including teasing. For example, my cousin ignored my pleas for her to stop tickling me until I could barely breathe. This made me feel powerless and that I did not have a right to say “stop” when I was uncomfortable. In recovery, I gained the capacity to tell a hugger to stop squeezing me so hard and use less pressure. In some cases, boundary violations affect a child’s ability to mature into an independent, responsible adult or be able to set boundaries.
Types of Boundaries
Mental and Emotional boundaries apply to your thoughts, values, and opinions. Are you easily suggestible? Do you know what you believe, and can you hold onto your opinions? Can you listen with an open mind to someone else’s opinion without becoming rigid or taking it personally? If you become highly emotional, argumentative, or defensive, you may have weak emotional boundaries.
What are your frustrations about your work right now? What are the biggest challenges in your work? What do you wish you could change what you do? What do you think about over and over that you want to change in your life?
Remember….. when you were a little child and you used to dream big?
There is still a dream inside of you about how you want your life to go, what you want to produce, and how you want to help others. Think about that dream…… pretend you are a child again what would that dream be?
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